Happily Ever After

Thinking of all my loved ones that are preparing to be married and recently married, I think back on the day that I was married and the lack of knowledge I had about what I was entering into at such a young age. I have learned a LOT from my experience. Although my marriage was not a success, I guarantee you that I won't enter into another marriage with the same mindset as I had in the first. People tend to think that marriage is a mere fairy tale and that they will live HAPPILY EVER AFTER. Not understanding that marriage is a FULL-TIME JOB...It's work and can not be neglected.

I think about the women with their white gowns, flowers, make-up etc., in preparation for the day that they expect to cherish for the rest of their lives. The men in clean tuxedos and shinny shoes, fresh cut, clean shaven and smelling good...LOL! If only that was how the marriage would go. The reality of things is that the couple should dress in combat boots and army fatigues. Women should put their hair up in a pony tail and grease their faces with Vaseline. Magazines, movies and television shows has given the false perception that its all gonna be perfect...BUT its not. You must remember that marriage is an imperfect person, joining with another imperfect person. So why in the world do we expect them to be PERFECT???? It's never going to happen. Entering into marriage we must understand that it's two imperfect human beings that have love for one another and have made the conscious decision that they are going to get up everyday and still choose each other in spite of what they are going through. Even when it's a bad day, or a sad day, I STILL CHOOSE YOU! In a marriage you have to know that life happens and keep moving forward.

That's where me and my ex husband went wrong. We had unrealistic expectations for one another and when we failed to meet those expectations for one another it resulted in a whirlwind of hurt and resentment. Which resulted in the lost of love, respect, commitment and loyalty. Even in the Bible it tells us that we all sin and fall short of the glory of God. We ALL SIN AND FALL SHORT...including YOU!!!

So don't get me wrong...Marriage is beautiful and has so many benefits, and I myself desire to remarry one day. But I know that I won't be ignorant to Satan's devices, I'm all too familiar with his schemes. So I don't doubt that it's possible that in marriage there will be disappointment, anger, sadness, loneliness, or hurt. When those feelings are present I know to seek God the father and to lay my burdens upon him. I refuse to give in to Satan's plan to destroy my marriage, my self-confidence, my sanity (been there done that)....because we all know that the devil only comes to steal, kill and destroy.

Happily ever after isn't a fairy tale...It's simply a choice.

Love!